With the help of friends, family, and faith, Dalynn was able to bravely face cancer. Her unwavering positivity and compassion are just a few of the traits that make her a Face of Hope.
Tell us a fun fact about yourself that has nothing to do with cancer.
I am 5′ even, and my hubby is 6’4″. All of my kiddos will outgrow me, some already have and I love it! But being 5′ was super handy in high school. I could go zipping right down the crowded halls and never have to stop because I was shorter than most people elbows. 🙂
What brought you hope as you faced cancer?
My Faith in God and his promises to me that I would be okay, I would survive this thing.
The love and prayers of my family and friends.
The amazing strides in cancer care in just the past 5 years. My chemo wasn’t as scary as it would have been. My doctors REALLY knew what they were doing.
The health care professionals I was “given”. My team truly is amazing! From the nurses and scheduling staff to the oncologists and surgeons. I had to change a couple around midway through, but I have truly been blessed to have a team of people who joke around with me and tell me like it is all at the same time.
How do you live life over cancer?
People walk up to me and say, “You are amazing! I don’t know how you do it and still smile” I say to them, “I didn’t really have a choice”. I love my husband and kids. I love my life. I knew the whole time that I was going to get to through this. Sure I had a choice, I could have been mad, grumpy, mean and bitter. But that’s not me, and I was determined to be the best me I could and to get through this with grace and dignity. Did I falter sometimes…oh heck, yeah! Cancer is hard!!!!! But I didn’t lose sight of the effect my attitude had on others around me. I was going to get through this and live my life so that others could see that it was do-able. I still had children to raise, I still had a church family to help, I still had people that looked to me for answers, so…I did it. Even on the days that were the lowest of low, I found ways to help others, I found ways to give, not just receive. I found ways to live a life of service through my life with cancer.
How did you become connected with Hope Scarves?
My friend AnnMarie and I reconnected after my sister in law mentioned that AnnMarie had gone through Breast Cancer also. My SIL suggested that I contact AnnMarie early on in my treatment. AnnMarie was full of insight and tips that I needed at that time. AnnMarie also suggested that I look into Hope Scarves, seems I would be losing my hair soon. She also mentioned that “they send a story from another cancer patient with it”. I thought, “what could it hurt, I could use a free scarf”. Yeah, the scarf wasn’t the part that made the most impact. The story that came along with it was, and then the desire to share my own story and to commit to passing on my own scarves and hats afterwards. I later decided to share my story via my own blog site as suggested by the same SIL and as soon as my hair was long enough to stop “needing a top” I passed my hats on to two other chemo patients.
What do you wish other people knew about Hope Scarves?
I wish other people knew about the connection it gives to people who are just beginning, in the middle or survivors to other people who have gone through the same thing. I also wish they knew how important that connection is in the beginning.
What would you tell someone who is thinking about sending a Hope Scarf to someone facing cancer?
Do it! That friend will be forever grateful to have received the scarf and the story.
What is one of your dreams or goals for the future?
I have already been able to help several people through their own treatments, my biggest goal or dream is to be able to continue to help others in the same manner, but maybe even in a more official capacity as well. Once I am through with my final reconstructive surgery I plan to apply for a counseling position through some local resources. I may have to get more schooling or training, but I have had a taste of it and I love it!
What is your favorite inspirational quote?
“It is better to look up!” – Thomas S. Monson. In this struggle with cancer, this phrase has come to me time and again. It is always better to look up, no matter how hard or awful things seem. Look up, look ahead, look forward!
“Life by the yard is hard; by the inch it’s a cinch.” This concept was especially helpful to me. Going through chemo it became my mantra, get through today, then we’ll deal with tomorrow. Get through chemo, then we’ll deal with surgery. Get through surgery, then we’ll deal with Radiation. etc. You do have to do some planning and scheduling and big decision making, but when it comes down to it, you gotta be able to get through the moment or you will get overwhelmed by the whole shebang.
If your friends or family had to describe you in a couple of words, what would they say?
Optimistic, Unsinkable, Compassionate
Please share something you learned facing cancer.
I have learned that I CAN do hard things. I’ve learned that I have a lot more fear in me than I thought before, but that I can overcome it. I’ve learned that I NEED the people around me to get through those fears. I’ve learned how to LET people help me, and how important it is to them for me to let them help. And, I’ve learned how to be a bit more flexible with schedules and routines and all that jazz, things we have to deal with as Cancer patients and in life in general…Cancer just creates a more concentrated version of real life, throwing it all in at the same time instead of spread out more evenly.
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